5 Things You Should Never Say To A Pregnant Woman
Do you happen to have friends who are expecting a baby? You may be well versed in what not to say to them. On the other hand, you may have never experienced being around a pregnant woman so haven’t come up close and personal with their hormones. These hormones are totally unpredictable and something you say could be taken the wrong way and upset the lady. Think twice before you mention anything to an expectant mother.
Here are 5 definite NO NOs when it comes to talking to pregnant women.
1) Wow, you look exhausted
Thank you for stating the obvious is what the pregnant woman will be thinking. She may reply with ‘yes I am rather tired’ but that is not what she wants to hear when she may already be feeling pretty rubbish. Instead, you should think about complimenting her appearance. Growing a baby can be hard work and she may still be working and looking after other children.
2) Gosh, you are huge, are you having twins?
As a matter of fact, she may be having twins but that is none of your business. If she wishes to disclose how many beautiful babies are growing inside of her she will. Saying a pregnant woman is huge is just asking for trouble. Not only does it sound bad, but it can also be detrimental to the woman’s mental health which could already be fragile.
3) Are they natural?
If a woman discloses to you that she is having multiples then your first thought should be congratulations. She doesn’t want to hear the age-old questions of are they natural, are they identical, etc. They may be a result of needing to use an IVF clinic but that might not be any of your business so she doesn’t have to tell you. It is also common for multiples to be conceived naturally so it doesn’t automatically mean they were conceived with extra help.
4) You’ve got your hands full
If you see an expectant mother struggling with her other children, rather than being judgy why not offer to help. If you see them in the car park struggling with the shopping or packing up the car, approach her and see if there is anything you can do. She will remember that far more than your judgy comments. She doesn’t need to hear ‘you’ve got your hands full’, she already knows that.
5) Oh I remember having my children
The last thing an expectant mother needs to hear is your horrifying birth story. Difficult labours are a given, you are trying to push a gigantic watermelon out of your hoo-ha. That is not going to be easy. But what this lady does not need to listen to is how you ripped from front to back or how you nearly bled to death. Scaring a woman who is having to go through that is not wise at all.
We hope you found this article helpful and it gives you some pointers and ideas of what not to say when you see a pregnant woman. Instead offer helpful advice that she will find friendly and useful.